And That’s What You Missed on Glee
“The show must go . . . all over the place . . . or something.”
“The show must go . . . all over the place . . . or something.”
Dealing with death is hard, but God and others are always
present. We just have to be willing to
let them be with us during hard times. Death
is an uncomfortable topic. It isn’t
something that we like to talk about.
But sometimes we have to talk about those tough things to realize we
aren’t alone.
Tonight we are going to watch two different clips from
Glee. One is from the second season and
the second is from this season.
Before we begin who has had a family member or friend die?
Our first clip is when Sue is struggling with the death of
her sister. Sue is mean, cruel and hates
the Glee club. She doesn’t want anyone
to help her especially the Glee club. She needed help and so the Glee club decided
to help her even if she was cruel about it.
This scene we are going to watch is the funeral. The Glee club has helped Sue sort through her
sisters stuff and helped plan the funeral.
How did death help bring people together, even those who
don’t get along, in your experience?
Death is hard, it hurts, and it makes us question
everything. What questions does death make you ask?
Here are some of the questions that were asked:
1. Cremation?
Body is burned in a big oven.
Then the ashes are collected and placed in a container of families
choosing. Ashes can be buried or taken
home. Cremation can happen before or
after the funeral. It is up to the
family and the persons wishes.
2. Does death hurt? What does it feel like? Everyone’s death is different. Some are painful and others are not. Some fall asleep and never wake up. Others suffer with pain until the very
end.
3. Why do we die? Because when Adam and Eve ate the fruit in the
garden that was part of the consequence of their action.
4. Can you go to Hell for something someone
else did and not talking about it? We will be judged for our own actions
not the actions of others. If you know
that someone is hurting someone then yes there will be consequences. But I believe that God judges us for who we
are in the big picture not just one circumstance. He sees and knows more than we do. All we can do is what we know is right and
what we believe God would want us to do in each situation. Prayer and asking others for advice is the best
way to judge if your intention are in line with God’s will.
5. Why would God want people to die early? I
don’t think God wants us to die early. I
think it is because of the consequence of sin that we die. Not because God says “today I pick you… you
and you to die.” It hurts that someone young
can die but we are not guaranteed today or tomorrow. All we are promised is this moment and that God
is with us.
6. Why not wait until their old, so they can
live? If only we could all live to
be 900 years old. But that just isn’t how
life works. We have the choice on how
we live our lives and sometimes our choices cause bad things to happen. And sometimes that bad thing is death. All we can do is make every moment
count.
7.
Who is
the oldest person to die? His name
was Methuselah and he was 969 years old when he died. He was the grandfather of Noah.
8. Why must death make you feel so sad but
then so good to know there is a better place? Death causes a range of emotions. It is weird to think someone is gone. Death is sad because we are losing someone we
loved. Someone we shared life with. But as Christians we also can celebrate
because we know that one day we will see them again.
9. What happens to are physical body when they
lay us in the ground? It decomposes and becomes part of the earth
again. We were made from the ground and
to the ground we will return. When God
created Adam He used the ground to form him.
And we one day will return to the ground.
Questions are good.
We need to be willing to asks questions.
Even if there isn’t a simple answer or an answer at all. We need to voice them. Find someone you can talk to. Ask them just to hear out your questions and
that it is okay for them not to know the answer but just let you say them out loud.
Check Out Glee: The Quarterback on Hulu. http://www.hulu.com/watch/543572
Our second clip is from the last season, it is where someone
who is your age or a little bit older has died.
Finn had just graduated from high school. Was planning to marry Rachel. Was the Glee clubs best male singer for much
of the first three seasons. The first
clip I am going to show you is the family packing up Finns stuff.
So death is a topic that we avoid. We don’t want to think about the fact that
one day we will die. There is 100%
chance of that. Only God knows the
number of our days we do not. We can be
here on earth for a short or a long time but we don’t know. Church, here, is a good place for us to talk
about death. To talk about the what
happens after we die. To ask our
questions about it. And to celebrate the
people we have lost.
Read Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Does this verse help
or not help when dealing with loss? Why or why not? Does this feel like another
cliché people say just to make themselves feel better?
I hated when people would say “oh she is in a better place.” When my sister died. Call me selfish but I just wanted her here
with me. But I know that they are
right. She was miserable here on eartch,
so sick and in so much pain. She is in a
better place. Doesn’t make it easy
though.
Next section of clips is where Santana gets angry at Sue and
screams at her. There are a few words in
here that are not appropriate.
When we lose someone grief makes us do weird things. It causes us to say things that are just out
of character. How are some of the ways
we can react to someone dying?
Scream
Cry
Throw things
Take a long drive
Talk to someone
Cry
Throw things
Take a long drive
Talk to someone
Our next clip is when Puck gets upset and coach helps him
talk through it. Then Santana sings her
song about Finn.
Coach Beiste: He's dead. And all we've got left is his voice in
our head. I'm sorry, but it's time. You've gotta be your own quarterback.
Puck: Do you think we could retire his number. Kurt has his letterman jacket. Maybe we could frame it or something. Put it up in here. Other kids should know who he was years from now.
Puck: Do you think we could retire his number. Kurt has his letterman jacket. Maybe we could frame it or something. Put it up in here. Other kids should know who he was years from now.
It’s okay to cry!
When we lose someone it hurts and it is okay to cry. When we lose someone we also have
regrets. What were some of the regrets
we have seen so far?
Read Matthew 28:18-20
God is always with us.
He never leaves us. He is always
helping us even when we don’t see it or feel it.
How have you experienced God being with you?
We watched the rest of the episode. Here are some of the other things we discussed:
When we lose someone there are things of theirs that we keep
close. What objects or things have you
held close to you from the loved one you have lost?
For me it is a bear of my sisters. When she died we had people bring teddy
bears instead of flowers to her funeral.
We surrounded her with over 500 bears during her funeral. She would have been so happy. For the Glee club it was his letter jacket.
Plans change, when someone dies things are different. Not always better in our minds at that
moment but as time goes we settle into our new reality.
What to say when someone loses a person they love depends on
the person. I love the Jewish
tradition. When someone dies they go to their
homes and just sit with them. No
words. No touch unless asked for. They just sit there. Cry with them. And pray with them.
What do we do when their voice, smell and image in our head
starts to fade? How do we move
forward?
We don’t know when we are going to die. We are only promised today, the
present. So many people live in the past
and what has happened. Or live in the
future and say oh in ten years I’ll do that.
Instead of living in the here and now.
Now that is not saying we shouldn’t have goals and look to the
future. Because we should. But we can’t push the pause button on life
till we get to a certain age or have a certain amount of money in the
back. We must live life to the
fullest. We all have a beginning and an
end. And on our tombstone there will be
a dash in the middle. What are you
going to do with the dash in the middle of your dates? How are you going to make your dash impact
the lives of others? How are you going
to make your life meaningful?
What do you want people to say about you when you die?
On a rock I want you to put the name of someone who has died
that helped make your dash significant.
Who made an impact on your life?
It can be a pet or friend or family member.
God loves you. God
loves the person you have lost. God is
with us in the middle of the pain and confusion and hurt. Death is not fun and we all react to it
differently. Let others and God help you
through.
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